Ways to deal with a stubborn child.

Children tend to be especially stubborn during the childhood and teenage years, at times, you as a parent have to teach them how to deal with their own personalities ; in other cases it is merely a way to test boundaries and assert their freedom; Sometimes the child struggles to express something that is going on with him.

Teaching stubborn children to express themselves and deal with their stress in healthy ways is the key to effective discipline.Discipline a stubborn child by remaining calm, listening and understanding the child, and setting a good example of acceptable behavior.

1. Discipline infants and young children.

• Understand babies and children.

The first three years of life are known as a “critical period” in a child’s development, during which a child’s brain grows, learns constantly, and stores information that it will use for the rest of his life.

Children’s behaviors that may seem like stubbornness or even vulgarity are actually their natural processes for learning about cause and effect.

•Modify the environment around him.

If your child obstinately touches the same breakable object every day or refuses to stay away from kitchen cabinets, instead of punishing or disciplining the child, rearrange the home to make it safe and accessible.After all, it’s his home too, and he learns best when he can explore it.

• Say yes to your child.

Most young children spend their days hearing “no” after “no” and seldom engage in the behaviors that they choose.After changing your home environment to make it safe, make it your goal to say “yes” whenever it is safe and possible. Saying “yes” will allow your child to take charge of their educational experiences and explore the things that matter to them.

• Redirect your child’s attention.

If your child is turning toward an unusual behavior, say his name and then redirect his attention to a game or distraction that he is enjoying.Keep an arsenal of strategies ready to redirect your child’s attention at any moment.

• The science of “cute hands”.

One of the most common bad behaviors that young children repeat is hitting, biting, or kicking.They do this to see what kind of reaction they would get, not to hurt you or others. It is important to teach your child how to interact with others in a safe manner.

2. Discipline children.

Think of discipline as education. Rather than simply presenting negative consequences of behavior (punishments), discipline is a way to turn misbehavior into educational moments.

When your child refuses to cooperate or repeats the same bad behavior, your ultimate goal should be to teach your child to cooperate and not to repeat the bad behavior.

•Follow up with the consequences.

If you say that a certain behavior will produce a certain result, you should continue. Do not make idle threats, as your child will learn that you are insincere at best and liar at worst.

• Create routines.

Structure and predictability are important for children and teenagers, as it helps them know what to expect and avoid unpleasant turbulence in their day.

Establish a daily and weekly routine so they know what to expect. Moreover, a consistent daily routine improves children’s behavior and school success.

• Watch your responses.

Many stubborn children are very sensitive and tune in to your behavior and tone of voice when disciplining them.

They are likely to reverse your reactions to them, such as eye movement, sighing, screaming, or exasperation.

• Learn how to negotiate.

Previous generations of parents were advised never to give in to the demands of their children, for fear that this would result in children losing respect and forgetting who is responsible.

But psychologists today recognize that children need to feel that they have some control over their lives, and parents should not try to control every decision.

When the choice is not a matter of your child’s health or safety, but rather her opinion or preference, it is okay to let him find his way.

• Understand pre-puberty.

Sometime around the age of ten or eleven, children begin to experience the hormonal shifts that lead to puberty.These transitions often lead to emotional outbursts, unexpected stubborn behavior, and sometimes withdrawal.

• Experiment and see things from your child’s point of view.

Another thing to do is try to see things from your child’s point of view. Find out why your son is behaving in a certain way.

If he’s not eating, find out what he doesn’t like about food. If he does not want to study, it may be because the lessons are difficult or easy to access.

• Promote good behavior in the child.

Every child needs to be commended. This is a rule, not an exception. Just as you punish your son for his bad behavior, you also need to praise him for being good.This just adds to your baby’s feeling of safety. Make him a healthier, happier and more adaptive child. Every time your child acts in public or even at home, praise and reward him.

References :

Trudi Griffin (24-3-2020),”How to Discipline a Stubborn Child”,

Mansi Kohli (4-2-2013), “Dealing with a stubborn child”،

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